Thursday, November 24, 2011

90/10 principle of life

It means that 10 percent of life is made up of what happens to you; 90 percent of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10 percent of what happens to us.

For instance, we cannot stop the car from breaking down, the plane from arriving late, which throws our whole schedule off. We have no control over this 10 percent. The other 90 percent is different. You can control the 90 percent.

How? By Your Reaction.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what has just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter
for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize he! r for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.


A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.

Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.


Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing Rs.100 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.


After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible.


As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.


Why? Because of your reaction that morning.


Why did you have a bad day?


A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have been done and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry.

You gently say, "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time."


Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After pulling out a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.


She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.

Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED.


A powerful principle... especially for those who take life too seriously. Apply the 90/10 principle. It will change your life at least the way you react to situations.


Cheers! Hope you have a great day......take charge of the first 2 hours of the day and the rest of the day will take care of itself!!


"If you're not using your smile, you're a person with a million dollars in the bank and no checkbook"

Wedding Query(SQL Server Stored Procedure Style)

CREATE PROCEDURE MyMarriage
@
BrideGroom Char(NotBad),
@
Bride Char(Good)

AS
BEGIN
SELECT Bride FROM india_Brides
WHERE
FatherInLaw = 'Millionaire'
AND
CarCount > 2
AND
HouseStatus ='TwoStoreyed'
AND
BrideEduStatus='PG orAbove'
AND
HavingBrothers='NO'
AND
HavingSisters ='No'
AND
AllowRelocate ='YES'


SELECT
Gold ,Cash,Car,BankBalance FROM FatherInLaw

UPDATE
MyBankAccout SET MyBal = MyBal + FatherinLawBal
UPDATE
MyLocker SET MyLockerContents = MyLockerContents + FatherinLawGold

INSERT INTO
MyCarShed VALUES ('BMW')
END
GO
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Then the wife writes the below query:
DROP HUSBAND
Commit;

Why guys like Girls!

Here are a few reasons why guys like girls:

1. They will always smell good even if its just shampoo
2. The way their heads always find the right spot on our shoulder
3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end it makes it all worth while
8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 30 outside
9. The way they look good no matter what they wear
10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she's the most beautiful thing on this earth
11. How cute they are when they argue
12. The way her hand always finds yours
13. The way they smile
14. The way you feel when you see their name on the call ID after you just had a big fight
15. The way she says "lets not fight anymore" even though you know that an hour later....
16. The way they kiss when you do something nice for them
17. The way they kiss you when you say "I love you"
18. Actually ... just the way they kiss you...
19. The way they fall into your arms when they cry
20. Then the way they apologize for crying over something that silly
21. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
22. Then the way they apologize when it does hurt. (even though we don't admit it)!
23. The way they say "I miss you"
24. The way you miss them
25. The way their tears make you want to change the world so that it doesn't hurt her anymore...

When you look them in the eyes, traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very heart.

We love them for a million reasons, No paper would do it justice.

It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A feeling, only felt...

Boys Rules I Wish Girl Get It ...

At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down

Finally, the guys' side of the story.(Imust admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules " From the female side.

Now here are the rules from the male side.These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport.And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem onlyif you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem.See a doctor.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's Secret girls,don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not wor th the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as cricket, the football season,or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Sad Love Quotes

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" I can't talk to you anymore, it's not that I am mad at you, it's just that when I talk to you I realize how much I love you and when I realize how much I love you, I realize I can't have you and that makes me love you even more."
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" If you're going to make me cry, at least be there to wipe away the tears."
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" Nothing hurts more than realizing he meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to him."
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" The pain of having a broken heart is not so much as to kill you, yet not so little as to let you live."
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" I wonder, when you look into my eyes and watch my heart shatter, does it break your heart too, even crack it a little bit?"
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" Never be sad for what is over, just be glad that it was once yours."

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" You've never felt pain until you've felt love."
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" The worst way to love someone is to sit next to them, knowing they don't love you back."

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" When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal."

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" Sometimes you think you've gotten over a person, but when you see him smile you suddenly realize you're just pretending you're over him to ease the pain of knowing that he will never be yours."
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" If I hadn't met you, I wouldn't like you. If I hadn't liked you, I wouldn't love you. If I wouldn't love you, I wouldn't miss you. But I did, I do and I will."
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" I'm not supposed to love you, I'm not supposed to care, I'm not supposed to live my life wishing you were there. I'm not supposed to wonder where you are or what you're doing, but I can't help it, cause I'm in love with you."
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" Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
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" Those who do not know how to weep with their whole heart do not know how to laugh either."
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" Sometimes the person you really need is the one you didn't think you wanted."
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" Me, I'm scared of everything, I'm scared of who I am, what I saw, what I did, but most of all I am scared of walking out of this room and never feeling for the rest of my life, the way I feel when I'm with you."

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" Everyone tells me I should forget about you, you don't deserve me. They're right, you don't deserve me, but I deserve you."
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" Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew."

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" It takes a couple seconds to say Hello, but forever to say Goodbye."

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" Moving on is simple, it's what you leave behind that makes it so difficult."
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" I don't miss her, I miss who I thought She was."
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" There's this place in me where your finger tips still rest... your kisses still linger and your whispers softly echo... It's the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me."
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" If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it."
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" I miss you a little, I guess you could say, a little too much, a little too often, and a little more each day."
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" I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me - I’m going to smile."
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" There's a girl in my mirror crying tonight, and there's nothing I can say to make her feel all right."

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" You don't die from a broken heart.. you only wish you did."
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" The hardest part of dreaming about someone you love is having to wake up."

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" I just realized, it's so lonely being free."

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" Someday never really comes, does it?"

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" No one can promise they’ll never hurt you, because at one time or another they will. The real promise is if the time you spent together will be worth the pain in the end."
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" You don't realize how much you care about someone until they don't care about you."
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" It's always the same in every relationship, there is always one person crying and wishing to get back together, while the other doesn't even remember the things they've been through. I hate that I have to be the one who remembers every little detail while you can't seem to remember me at all."
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" You can't ever let go of all the feelings, But you need to let go of him."
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" We laughed until we had to cry, we loved right down to our last goodbye, but over the years we'll smile and recall for just one moment we had it all."
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" Love unreturned is like a question without an answer."

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" I would like to stay a secret, like walking in the dark, if no one knows you, no one cares and no one breaks your heart."
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" Loving someone that doesn't love you is like reaching for a star - You know you'll never reach it but you just got to keep trying."

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" Love that remains longest in your heart is the one that is not returned."

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" Look in my eyes and you will find me, but look in my heart and you will find you."
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" If you find yourself in love with a person who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart."
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" You know you love someone when you want them to be happy even if their happiness means that you're not part of it."
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" I swore to myself it wouldn't happen again. I vowed to myself that this was the end. The end of this longing, this yearning so strong... I said I was over you, but oh I was so wrong."
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" Someone should sue Disney for planting the ideas in little kids heads that every girl has a prince and everything ends up happily ever after."
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" How do I say goodbye to someone I never really had? Why do my tears fall so endlessly for someone who was never really mine? Why is it I miss someone I was never really with? And why do I love someone whose love was never really mine?"

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" A great love? It's when you shed tears for him but still you care for him. It's when he ignored you but you still long for him. It's when he starts loving another, and yet you manage a smile and find the courage to say "I'm happy for you." "
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" We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us."

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" I'm not over you because I don't like you anymore, I'm over you because I've realized that you're never going to want me like I want you."

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" Why did I have to fall for you when you just keep falling for her?"
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" God is closest to those with broken hearts."









Friday, November 18, 2011

My Life Without you


A day without you,Is a day without me,
For you make me who I am,And who i want to be.

A day without you,Is day without light,
For you light up my sky,And you light up my life.

A day without you,Is a day without sound,
For i open my ears,To hear you around.

A day without you,Is a day without cheer,
For you make me smile,And you don’t cause a tear.

A day without you,Is a day without sight,
For you open my sight,For you open my eyes,

And make my world bright.
But a day without you,

Will never be,Because I trust in you,
That you will never hurt me

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My Life without you, is so Incomplete

  

Without you, the city falls asleep softly,
Without you, the color disappears slowly,
Without you, the trees forget the wind,
Without you, the night is chagrined.

Without you, my music does not amaze,
Without you, my hours are days,
Without you, my heart gets bored,
Without you, my steps are too heavy and not labored.

Without you,

my thoughts prevent me from going to bed,
Without you, I do not distinguish the horizon ahead,
Without you, there are no heavens,
Without you, the time forgets its reasons.

Without you,

I am afraid of the next day not chosen,
Without you, the haze conceals the splendid ocean,
Without you, I do not figure or picture anything pleasant,
Without you, I am wondering this question at this moment...

My love, where are you hidden?
Without you, my happiness is forbidden,
My heart without you, is not at all replete,
My life without you, is so incomplete...

 
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My Heart Without You
 
Without you, the city falls asleep softly,
Without you, the color disappears slowly,
Without you, the trees forget the wind,
Without you, the night is chagrined.

Without you, my music does not amaze,
Without you, my hours are days,
Without you, my heart gets bored,
Without you, my steps are too heavy and not labored.

Without you, my thoughts prevent me from going to bed,
Without you, I do not distinguish the horizon ahead,
Without you, there are no heavens,
Without you, the time forgets its reasons.

Without you, I am afraid of the next day not chosen,
Without you, the haze conceals the splendid ocean,
Without you, I do not figure or picture anything pleasant,
Without you, I am wondering this question at this moment...

My love, where are you hidden
Without you, my happiness is forbidden,
My heart without you, is not at all replete,
My life without you, is so incomplete...
 
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Miss You

 
“Without You” *
*My vision is clouded by tears in my eyes. *
*I used to think that visions of us were my only paradise. *
*She has boy by her side. *
*Just looking at you two, makes tears flow from my eyes. *
*She only sees me as a friend, *
*But how can that be, because our road to friendship hasn’t even begun. *
*I’ll just have to admit to myself that I’m not her type. *
*I know that she has a Boyfriend, so me liking her isn’t alright. *
*Many things with girls have gone wrong in the past. *
*All those relationships that I thought were gonna last. *
*I sometimes find myself daydreaming about your touch, *
*And you know I like you, but not this much. *
*Will my broken heart be healed soon? *
*I feel overwhelmed in sadness and have become so consumed *
*I don’t know how to say I wanna be with you, I don’t know how to start, *
*But as each day goes by I wish you would open you’re heart. *
*Sometimes I wish I could dream forever, *
*Then that way we’ll always be together. *
*Unfortunately though, I wake up, *
*And I hate how reality always seems to suck. *
*At school it’ll be just another day, *
*Another day that I’ll try to suppress my feelings for you away.*
*-----*----In the Memory of Someone Special-----*-------*

Monday, November 14, 2011

Hindi Ghazal- Musafir Hai Hum to Chale Jaa Rahe Hai

hindi poem

मुसाफ़िर हैं हम तो चले जा रहे हैं बड़ा ही सुहाना ग़ज़ल का सफ़र है।
पता पूछते हो तो इतना पता है हमारा ठिकाना गुलाबी नगर है।

ग़ज़ल ही हमारा अनोखा जहाँ है ग़ज़ल प्यार की वो हसीं दासताँ है।
इसे जो भी सुनता है, वो झूमता है वो जादू है इसमें कुछ ऐसा असर है।

hindi ghazal
ना कोई थकन है, न कोई ख़लिश है मोहब्बत की जाने ये कैसी कशिश है।
जिसे देखिए वो चला जा रहा है, जहान-ए-ग़ज़ल की सुहानी डगर है।

वली, मीर, मोमिन ने इसको निखारा जिगर, दाग़, ग़ालिब ने इसको सँवारा।
इसे मोसिक़ी ने गले से लगाया ग़ज़ल आज दुनिया के पेश-ए-नज़र है।

यही है हमारा ताल्लुक़ ग़ज़ल से हम इसके लिए ये हमारे लिए है।
ये अपनी कहानी ज़माने में ‘हसरत’ सभी को पता है, सभी को ख़बर है

hindi poetry